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Should Marriage Be A 50/50 arrangement?
Many years ago a friend once gave me this advice.
While it would be nice if each person carried 50% of the workload, it is not realistic.
Most of the time, the percentage is 60/40 or 70/30. Sometimes one has a job and is going to school and the other has to bear most of the household work and child rearing. Sometimes one has a lengthy illness and the other has to pick up the slack. Whatever the circumstances, there is always one who needs to give more than his or her "share."
Couples will have less conflict over who has to do what if each aims for giving 100%. If each one gives all that they can, if each one does their best, there is less worry about things "being equal."